Friday, November 13, 2009

Cyber Bully

I made a comment on a friends comment on facebook. A little note to stay connected, and small way of letting someone know I care. Then I discovered that one of her friends has been critical and insulting of me. I dont even know this person. It has caused unnecessary pain. I asked 2 people if they thought this person was trying to be funny, but both of them said no! Its been hard for me to let this go today, but I thought of this illustration i did a while back when I was studying for my Masters of Digital Media at University. For my Art Everyday Month post today, I am using art to heal...

17 comments:

The Gypsy said...

You look cute when you're upset. LOL.
We have a saying in Arabic "Just throw it behind your back".. these things are unavoidable and it's hard for us to think why people are mean when we try to be nice. I face this in my business, things that seem common sense and curtious to me are not the same to others. We hurt too much, and too often. Hope you can let it go soon.

Sharon said...

I'm sorry this happened to you. I recently read the book The Four Agreements. One of them is "Don't take anything personally". Try to do this for this situation. Because when you get down to it, the person who was mean to you for no reason, is the one who has the problem. They are just tossing it in your direction to make themselves feel better. No reason to let them make you feel bad. Don't know if I've said all of this correctly, but I hope you understand what I'm getting at here. Feel better and make art! Thinking of you.

Ariad said...

Hugs for you.
There is way too muchcyber bullying going on out their, but at least here you are among friends.:)

Kelly said...

I love the idea of cathartic art creation! I would not let this person get to you. It does not take much courage or personal integrity to tear someone down via the internet.

Lisa at Greenbow said...

You have good advise above. Just let it go. That bully has the problem.

Sara @Soulspackle said...

I'm sorry this happened to you. I know it's hard not to take personally, but if this person doesn't know you, they are basically just using the distance of the internet to be rude. Just like people can be rude from inside their cars or on voicemail but when you speak direct they usually begin to realize you're a person and they are kinder. I find this to be true, anyway. The person who doesn't know you can't possibly be a judge of your character; and what they do says far more about themselves than about you. Kudos to you for being a kind and caring friend to begin with!

Caroline said...

Sticks and stones..... sorry to read about this. I hope you won't dwell on it, it just ain't worth it... everyone here has good advice.

linda said...

Oh my...that is terrible. There always seems to be people out there that prey on others through anger and insults...probably because of their own insecurities. Don't let it get to you...just move on! Your illustration is super cute btw! :P

Jennifer said...

I'm so sorry!
I agree, you have much good advice already, so I really have nothing else to add.

Sending love, peace and healing your way,
Jennifer

Serena said...

For the life of me, I can't fathom why some people seem to enjoy hurting other people. From what I've heard, it's a comment occurrence on places like Facebook and even the blog world. I can only repeat the great advice mentioned above. This person doesn't know you so try not to take it personally even though it's not always easy to do...the best thing you can do is NOT respond to her nasty comment in any way, shape or form. If you do, she will have succeeded in what she set out to do. Know that you are a wonderful, caring female who can rise above petty, nasty people like her.

I like that you turned to your art to help deal with it...great therapy in itself.

Julie said...

I for one have witnessed so much of this type thing with My Space and Facebook (not me, but my kids)...I wonder if it is worthwhile to have these accounts. I have not joined one and will not, just for this reason.

Debbie said...

People insult, put down and make other people feel inferior because they have a low self esteem. TO make themselves feel better nad uplifted, they bully. I wish you lots of happiness, and the strength to move through this chapter.
Lots of Light
Debbie

Bella Sinclair said...

Hello, dear Messyfish! Well, I, for one, think you are fantastic and wonderful. And MY opinion is MUCH more important than THAT person's. So there.

Honestly, though, he or she has only succeeded in making him/herself seem really petty and mean, nothing more. Hold your head up high, darling.

Love your birdie mobile! And YUM, I hope you saved me a slice of that bread. :)

Kirsten said...

(((((((HUGS))))))) Plenty of great advice here! I hope you're feeling better about it now.

Maron said...

I recently had some negative feelings that I found hard to put behind me too (still working through it) I hope you will read my post on the subject and that it may help you too. I send good vibes your way

messyfish said...

thanks all! so much great advice and loving kind words. I am most definitely recovered now. Posting about it was a wonderful way to heal, and avoid reacting to the bully!

yoon see said...

Sorry to hear this messy fish but most importantly just be yourself, you don't do anything wrong. those people just being so so critical.
Your bird mobile is excellent. A+++++!
You love it and I love it too:)